How to Save for a Downpayment (Without Losing Your Mind as a Parent)

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Mar 21

Written By Jeremy

Buying a home can feel like trying to reach the moon while holding a toddler and dodging a mountain of laundry.

You’re not alone if saving for a downpayment feels totally overwhelming — especially when daycare costs more than your rent and your grocery bill seems to rise every week.

But here’s the good news: you can do this.

Even with kids.

Even with a tight budget.

Even if you’ve had to pause and restart this goal a dozen times already.

This article will walk you through exactly how to save for a downpayment, with practical strategies designed for real-life parents juggling a million things at once.

We’ll cover how much you need, where to stash your savings, how to cut costs (without eating ramen every night), and ways to make extra money.

So let’s dig in.

How Much Do You Really Need to Save for a Downpayment?

Let’s start with the big question: how much money do you actually need to buy a house?

The old-school advice says you need to save 20% of the home’s purchase price. So if you're eyeing a $300,000 home, that’s $60,000.

Yikes. But here’s the thing: you don’t need 20%.

There are plenty of loan options out there that allow you to put down much less:

Conventional loans: As low as 3% down
FHA loans: Minimum 3.5% down
VA and USDA loans: 0% down if you qualify

For that same $300,000 home, a 5% downpayment is $15,000. That’s still a big number, but way more doable than $60,000.

Keep in mind, though, that putting down less than 20% usually means you’ll pay private mortgage insurance (PMI) until you build more equity.

This monthly fee essentially protects your lender in case you stop making payments. I've seen it cost on average from 0.5% to 1.5% of the total loan amount per year, which equals $125 to $375 per month on a $300,000 mortgage.

Not great, but if waiting to save the full 20% means you’ll be stuck renting for five more years, PMI might be a worthwhile tradeoff. Plus, you typically need to only keep PMI for two years before requesting it is taken off.

Set a Realistic Timeline and Target

Now that you’ve got a ballpark figure, it’s time to figure out your savings target and timeline.

Ask yourself:

When do I want to buy a house?
How much do I need to save?
What’s a realistic monthly savings goal?

Let’s say your goal is to save $20,000 in two years.

That breaks down to about $834/month — a big number, but not impossible. If that feels out of reach, you have a few levers to pull: extend your timeline, lower your target (by considering a smaller downpayment), or increase your income to bridge the gap.

Once you’ve landed on your number, write it down and keep it visible — whether it’s on your fridge, your mirror, or your phone’s lock screen.

Seeing your goal regularly can help you stay focused and motivated.

Cut Costs Without Sacrificing Sanity

Okay, let’s talk about expenses.

I’m not going to tell you to stop buying lattes — because honestly, if that’s what’s keeping you going as a parent, it’s money well spent.

But we are going to find some smarter ways to spend less so you can save more.

Here are a few parent-friendly ideas:

Meal plan and batch cook: This is by far my favorite savings-hack. Cooking at home is not only better for your wallet, it's also much healthier. We save thousands of dollars per year simply cooking at home.
Buy secondhand: Facebook Marketplace and stores such as Unclaimed Baggage are goldmines for kid gear, clothes, and furniture.
Pause unused subscriptions: That fitness app you haven’t opened in 3 months? Cancel it.
Scale back on vacations: Try local family adventures (zoo memberships, hiking trails, camping trips) instead of pricey getaways.
Refinance or renegotiate bills: Call your internet or cell phone provider and ask for a lower rate. It works more often than you think.

Even if you only find $200/month to cut, that’s $2,400 a year toward your downpayment.

Also, if you don’t have a family budget, I’d highly recommend one. Keeping track of where your money is going is crucial to longterm financial success.

You can grab the one I built for free - simply check out this page.

Make More Money

Cutting costs only gets you so far, increasing your income is key.

And before you roll your eyes, I’m not talking about starting a million-dollar business (unless you want to).

I’m talking about realistic ways to bring in a few hundred extra dollars a month.

Here are some side hustles and income boosters that work well for parents:

Freelance gigs: Writing, editing, graphic design, social media, and more. Great if you already have a skillset.
Sell stuff you don’t use: Baby gear, toys, clothes, furniture — it adds up fast.
Babysitting, pet sitting, or housesitting: Flexible, local, and relatively low stress.
Virtual assistant work: Help a small business with admin tasks from home.
Online surveys or microtasks: Not huge money-makers, but every little bit helps.

If you can make $300/month on the side, that’s $3,600/year. Combine that with your spending cuts and you’re well on your way.

If you want to read more about making money on the side, check out my deep dives of side hustles for families, teachers, and dads. There are also resources for food-related and Pinterest-related side hustles.

Where to Keep Your Downpayment Savings

Your downpayment fund deserves its own special home — somewhere safe, separate from your everyday spending, and earning a bit of interest while it grows.

High-yield savings account

These accounts are often the best choice if you're planning to buy within the next couple of years.

These accounts are FDIC-insured, easy to open online, and typically pay much more interest than traditional savings accounts — look for rates above 4%.

They're ideal for short- to medium-term savings goals like a downpayment because your money stays accessible and protected.

Money Market Accounts

Money market accounts are another solid option.

They function a lot like HYSAs but may offer additional features like check-writing or debit card access.

Some people prefer them for flexibility, especially if they want the ability to pull funds for closing costs or inspections directly from the account.

Certificates of Deposit (CDs)

CDs offer higher interest rates but require you to lock in your money for a set term — usually 6 to 24 months.

They’re best if you know your exact timeline and won’t need to touch the money early.

The downside is that pulling out early often comes with penalties, so make sure your plan is rock-solid before committing. To mitigate this a bit, consider a CD ladder, which is when you stack your maturity dates to pull money out (or reinvest) throughout the year versus all at once.

Avoid investing your downpayment savings in the stock market if your timeline is short (under three years).

Markets fluctuate, and a sudden dip right before you’re ready to buy could set you back months — or worse, force you to start over.

additional smart saving tips

The next step is building consistent saving habits — and that’s where a few smart, parent-tested strategies can make all the difference.

Automating your savings is one of the easiest ways to stay consistent — even when life gets chaotic.

Set up a separate downpayment savings account and schedule automatic transfers to it every payday. Treat it like a non-negotiable bill. Even $100 a week adds up to $5,200 in a year, and you won’t have to think twice about it.

Take advantage of any unexpected money that comes your way. Tax refunds, work bonuses, birthday checks from relatives — send those windfalls straight into your savings. They can move the needle fast without impacting your regular budget.

Don’t forget about the smaller amounts of “found money,” too. Cashback from credit cards, rebates, or apps like Rakuten might only net you a few bucks here and there, but they add up over time. Funnel every bit toward your goal.

If family members are in a position to help, consider having an open conversation about financial gifts toward a downpayment. It might feel uncomfortable, but even a few thousand dollars from parents or grandparents could make a huge difference — and it’s more common than you might think.

Finally, check out first-time homebuyer programs in your state. Many offer grants, downpayment assistance, or matched savings programs that can supplement what you’re already putting away. A quick online search for “[Your State] first-time homebuyer program” is a great place to start.

Mistakes That Can Derail Your Downpayment Plan

Even with the best intentions, it’s easy to hit roadblocks that slow down your savings progress.

These common mistakes can sneak up on you — but with a little awareness, they’re totally avoidable:

Using the savings for other things: Keep your downpayment fund separate from your day-to-day banking. If it’s easy to access, it’s easy to spend — even if you meant to pay it back later.
Not having an emergency fund first: Life happens — and if you don’t have a basic emergency cushion, one unexpected bill could wipe out months of progress. Prioritize a small emergency fund first, then focus on your downpayment.
Going too hard too fast: It’s tempting to go all in, but ultra-aggressive saving can lead to burnout. Give yourself permission to enjoy life along the way — your plan should be sustainable, not punishing.
Waiting too long to start: You don’t need a spreadsheet masterpiece to begin. Just start. Even $10 a week puts you in motion, and momentum is everything when you're saving for something big.

Avoiding these pitfalls can mean the difference between stalling out and staying on track.

Give yourself grace, adjust when needed, and keep moving forward. You're closer than you think.

What to Do Once You Hit Your Goal

Reaching your downpayment goal is a huge milestone — one worth celebrating. But before you start house hunting on Zillow every night, make sure you’re ready for what comes next.

Here are the key steps to take once your savings are in place:

Get pre-approved: Connect with a mortgage lender to get pre-approved for a loan. This will give you a clear picture of what you can actually afford — and it shows sellers you’re serious.
Keep your credit score healthy: Don’t make any big financial moves like opening new credit cards, financing a car, or taking on new debt. A dip in your credit score could affect your interest rate or approval.
Budget for closing costs and move-in expenses: A downpayment is just the beginning. You’ll also need to cover closing costs (typically 2%–5% of the home’s price), plus moving fees, furniture, and any initial upgrades or repairs.
Keep the saving habit alive: You’ve built serious momentum — don’t lose it. Keep those automatic transfers going and redirect them into an emergency fund or future home maintenance account.

Buying a home is a big step, but going into it prepared makes the entire process less stressful.

You’ve already done the hard part — now it’s time to finish strong.

You’re Not Behind. You’re Building Something Bigger.

Saving for a downpayment as a parent isn’t easy. You’re managing childcare, school drop-offs, work, and life — all while trying to build a better future.

But every dollar you save is a brick in the foundation of that future home.

So don’t get discouraged. Keep moving forward. One small habit at a time.

And if you ever feel stuck, remember this: it’s not just about buying a house. It’s about creating a home base for your family — a place that’s yours, that grows with you, and that your kids will remember forever.

You've got this.

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